Yoga Off the Mat - Awareness

Many of us may have shared the experience of going into a retail boutique and having the feeling that the sales people don't think we are worth their effort. These places usually have name-brand items at full retail. In a recent shopping experience I expected to find a couple of college-age kids working in the store. What I got was a couple of older women. They reminded of when I was in college, working at a large retailer, and being mentored by "sometimes crabby" ladies this age.

I don't know if I wasn't wearing the right clothes or maybe my mascara scared them off but it took me a few minutes to warm up to these ladies.

I walked in and was greeted. When asked if I needed help, I said I was "just looking". I started to look around. I found some pants I was interested in and pulled a folded pair off the shelf. Another sales lady comes over to me and was very assertive about helping me with my size. My initial impression was that she didn't want me to take the pants off the shelf as there was no way I could fold them correctly. She would immediately begin straightening everything I touched. It was obvious she wanted to touch them. Maybe my paws were grimy.

Fortunately, that style of pants wasn't what I was looking for so she suggested some others. She didn't seem very warm and friendly. She finally left me alone for awhile and I picked out some things and she took them back to a dressing room, warming up a bit. Maybe she realized I really did want to buy something.

Once I told her I was a yoga instructor, she told me about a special program they have for instructors. That was good. It saved me 30% off full price items.

In the meantime, another lady walks into the store. She was wearing a business suit and lots of make-up. Both ladies were very chatty with her. She left after about 30 seconds.

It's easy to place blame on them but maybe I can look at how I present myself. Each of us has an opportunity to make each encounter pleasant or not-so pleasant so shouldn't we choose the former taking control of the situation as much as possible?

I probably wasn't approachable. When I'm shopping, I prefer to be left alone until I have a question. I realize that I wasn't getting what I wanted and I was reacting to it.

I seemed hard to please. None of the pants she was trying to show me were right. Maybe that was frustrating to her and she was reacting to that.

Maybe she was just having a bad day or a bad moment. I don't have to react to other people's bad moments.

Yes, I was kind of "mad" that she seemed rude but rather than letting myself be managed by this emotion, I distracted myself and stayed focus on what I wanted to accomplish. In this case, find comfortable clothes that I liked and that fit me in this store (I had a gift card). I tried to make myself more approachable, cracked a few jokes, smiled more, and engaged the sales person in conversations about the clothes. It seemed to work. I got what I wanted. She got sales.

Yes, the encounter could have been more pleasant but I'm glad that I made myself aware of my reactions and steered myself in a different direction. There is no blame to assign, just perceptions and reactions to each moment.

Namaste.

Yoga off the Mat - Renewal

Springtime Renewal

Spring has finally made an appearance. Although April is turning out to be a bit chilly, I'm enjoying the longer days and the fortitude of my rose bushes to burst out in beautiful blooms!

Spring is a time for rebirth and renewal. It's time to check in with your goals. Are they still meaningful? Do they need a little tweaking? Align your goals with your strengths as much as possible. You will be happier and more successful. You may also find that a weakness has also improved or that the weakness has become irrelevant in your life. Reduce or eliminate areas of your life that bring out your weaknesses.

Raising our Level of Awareness

How many times do we catch our selves in judgment of others and of ourselves? Probably more often than we realize. Does this give us peace? In the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali, Sutra 1:33 is very meaningful to me as it provides very simple guidance to find peace in our lives. In summary, this sutra tells us:

Be happy when others are happy. Disregard evil. Rejoice when others succeed. Feel compassion for those that are suffering.

Sounds easy?

Well.......For me, this is a challenge.

Don't we sometimes feel jealous when someone else succeeds at something? Or maybe we resent that someone also seems happy when we struggle on a daily basis? Isn't it easier to sympathize rather than empathize and truly feel compassionate when someone is suffering? As for disregarding evil, that's very tough. It's easier to think or say that the person should not have done something. It was wrong. Shame on them. See how easy that was?

Take a moment to rejoice when someone succeeds. Notice how you feel when you do that. Put yourself in the presence of happy people. Find something in each moment that makes you happy. When you encounter something that you feel is wrong or you start to be critical of someone's actions, try to detach yourself from the situation. Think positive thoughts towards the person or situation or, if that is too difficult, replace your thoughts with something completely different. When someone is suffering, be supportive. If they need a friend, be a friend.

I can't tell you that by practicing yoga that you will all of a sudden be able to change your feelings or reactions. During an asana practice, you will learn to be more in tune with yourself. You may be able to find an openness that has been missing or you may experience an emotional or physical release.

Being in-tune with yourself will allow you to notice that you have feelings contrary to the sutra. You have the opportunity to detach and step away. Resist the urge to analyze yourself for having these feelings. Just notice and re-direct the feelings to something more positive.

References:
Larkin, Dr. William K. Growing The Positive Mind. 1st. ed. 2008.
Satchidananda, Sri Swami. The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali. 2007 ed.